Single Parents Dating

how many single parents are out there?

how many have figure out when it is okay to date or when it is okay to bring somebody new in to the life of your child/ or children?
how do you know when it is okay?

People who watch The Bachelor?

Ok, I haven’t watched any of this season (I’ve only watched about 3 seasons total since the start of the show). However, I did watch the last season of The Bachelorette (spelling?), so I tuned in tonight to see what was going down. Ok, my whole problem with this is, how many women does this man drag in and out of his sons life? Where is this kids mom? I would be freaking out if my child had 4 or more potential new “mommies” in the past year if I was her. Isn’t this kind of being an irresponsible parent (not that there’s anything wrong with single parents dating)? A single parent having a serious relationship and than introducing them to their child is one thing, but to introduce casual dates??? This poor kid must be so confused.
And now the douche bag is going to dump mommy #525 on the air….what a jerk!

Newly single mom dating..HELP! PLEASE!!?

Hi,

My best friend has recently separated from her husband of over 12 years. It is a HUGE relief that she got out of the marriage being as he was physically abusing her for many years. I am SO proud of her for finally having the courage and strength to do so. They have two boys. One is 11 yrs. old, the other is 8 6 yrs. old. However, right before their last “blow out” she found out from her oldest son that her ex-husband has been physically abusing him since he was 4 yrs. old. (He hits him in the head with his fist, throws the remote control at his head, bottles, anything he can find..) This little boy is very sick. He has a rare blood disease, (cannot think of the name right now) and winds up in the hospital at least twice a year for blood transfusions..but they are not the typical blood transfusions. It is hard to explain. Anyways, he gets very sick a lot. My best friend, (will call her Jane for privacy purposes) is a RN and was the only one in the home working. Her Ex decided that after being in the military for 4 years he had done “his time” and was going to stay at home. She thought that was fine as long as he DID something while he was at home…something productive in other words while the kids were at school. She stayed home with the kids for the first 4 years then they went to pre-school and are now in a private Catholic school…(her parents help her out a lot financially). Well – he did NOTHING. Their house was an absolute mess…seriously – it was disgusting. Clothes piled up to the ceiling almost..candy, cookies, food, etc..stuck to furniture…dirty dishes EVERYWHERE – you couldn’t even walk through her home. It was VERY bad. He basically slept all day and played on the computer. he did not have a drug or drinking problem he was/is just lazy. She would come home after working a very long day to all of this and it would lead into arguments..which lead into horrible physical abuse. HORRIBLE…to the point where she has been hospitalized. Unfortunately she did not press charges the first three times he was arrested so he was out within 24 hours and would do the whole “honeymoon phase”…she would fall for it…and then the abuse began again. He has been arrested FOUR times but beaten up on a regular basis. She has lost many nursing jobs because of this and is finally stable now – has the home to herself-locks have been changed-has a restraining order-and the boys are overall MUCH happier. When she heard from her oldest son what her ex husband had been doing to him, it was the last straw…she filed for divorce-he moved out, etc… He finally got a job and his parents are helping him out. They are out of state and don’t believe anything “Jane” says. If they only lived here and saw what she has gone through and what he has been doing to their grandson….Errr…fumes me…anyways…
The first thing she did was go on match.com. She has been on a few dates and recently has found a match whom she has been on two dates with and is “in love”. She is meeting his parents today. he seems perfect but i am angry for some reason. i want her to be happy…trust me…nobody wants it more. But i cannot help but get defensive when she goes on and on about this wonderful guy…leaving her two kids with her Ex..(whom has abused their son) for the weekend…she also breaks the restraining order. She actually had her Ex babysit AT HER HOUSE while she went out on a date. When she came home – They had a HUGE fight and he ended up leaving crying..begging for her back…but of couse, she has no interest being as she is “in love” with this other guy. Am i wrong for feeling this way??? OH – forgot to mention – she is an alcoholic..and admits it. She would drink late at night almost every night as a scape goat and still does. Her new “love” is aware of this and she said that she only had a couple of drinks this past weekend with him. She cannot afford treatment and is scared to go to treatment because her Ex can hold that against her when they go to court for the divorce. I need some advice. I am always honest with her..but i feel like she is really rushing things. But once again…maybe i am wrong for feeling this way. Please – any advice appreciated… BTW, i am married..happily – so its not as if this is one of those “misery loves company” types of ordeals. I WANT HER HAPPY…but this just seems too fast and too much??? HELP!
I am not too experienced on the boards but that one response from “poppy whatever” was completely insane. I am looking for answers from ADULTS with a BRAIN…thank you for the other few of you for your advice…I am going to have to have a heart to heart with her…but she is pretty stubborn…but we are way to close for me not to. Its just eating at me. (And to the one PP -she is in psychoanalyzation (sp) therapy-not all of us are fortunate enough to afford rehab though..)

Dating situation? My parents like a boy for me that I am not crazy about!?

I had a bf not to long ago and I dated him just after knowing him for two days because I got over excited and I hadn’t had one in a while so I forgot what it was like. It made me pretty nervous though since it was my fault of taking another step forward within two days. Now though I have asked him if we can be friends to see where life leads because it was my fault of going to far ahead and he agreed. So far I havn’t been crazy about him only because he’s not working toward his future goals, he was pretty annoying because he talked about the same thing most of the time, and he didn’t take the actions of a gentleman (opening doors, trying to warm you when your cold, offering to pay for stuff, surprising you with random gifts to show his feelings ect..). He is a kind person though so either way I will try to stay in touch with him I’m just not so sure if he’s the man for me. I know the world isn’t totally easy and he was raised by a single mother so he don’t have much support and I know I can’t complain to him about that because it’s not his fault. Somehow for some reason I got more annoyed of him though and never really did look forward to time with him and it’s not because of him it’s just what I felt and I think it was because something in my gut was telling me that he’s not the man I want to spend my whole life with. In my last relationship it gave me an idea of what relationships should be like because he was very determined, he showed me he liked me through his actions of being a gentlman not his words, and I always did look forward to time with him. To get to the point though now I am still in touch with the person I met recently and we only dated after we knew eachother two days for about a month. Now it’s strange though I am really crazy about this other boy I met online because he is funny, kind, talented, I always look forward to hearing from him, mysterious, and he likes me. I havn’t met him in person though so I can’t be really VERYYY sure but I do have a good feeling. The problem though is that my parents met my last bf (that I dated for a month and am now just friends with), they do like him for me, and they want me to give him more time. They tell me no one is perfect though and yet even though they have NOT met the boy I am crazy about at the moment but they are saying they don’t think it’s good because he has a dissability (which is not super bad or serious) and because right now he gets money from the state because of his disability. He lives on his own though writting very very good music that he plans to try to publish soon and he even does things for his own family still (he said one time he put flowers in the fridge for a family member of his and he asked her to get something from the fridge so she would see it) and so that must mean he is responsible. Also my parents believe people can only be successful through college but I don’t. I know things can be more complicated without college but I don’t believe that means you are doomed. Right now I only know to keep in touch with them both really remain friends to see whats accomplished and meet the boy I like now face to face. Right now I am just plain friends with them both. What do you suggest please?

YOU DON’T HAVE TO READ THIS WHOLE THING I KNOW IT CAN BE BORING TO READ SOMETHING THIS LONG INCLUDING WHEN YOU HAVE NO INTEREST FOR IT. THE POINT IS THOUGH I REALLY LIKE A BOY I MET ONLINE AND HAVE BEEN TALKING TO FOR A WHILE BUT MY PARENTS LIKE A DIFFERENT BOY THAT I DATED A WHILE AGO. RIGHT NOW I AM JUST PLAIN FRIENDS WITH THEM BOTH!
That doesn’t help and no I am 19! I didn’t say anything about disney dating!

As a Single man with no children, would you date a woman with children?

Why are single moms considered good enough to sleep with but not to be taken serious? when does having children put you in a category of damaged goods, especially when you’re a successful single parent?

Just talked with a Air Force recruiter on Live chat line(single parents)?

As you know I’m trying to get into the Air Force.

Well as a single father that never had custody to begin with(probably not) he told me I need papers stating that I have no physical/legal custody of my son. So I’m like how do you go about getting these papers? Do I just walk into the court house front desk or this is something you have to set up a crappy court date that could take forever. All I’m needing is just some papers showing I’m not the father not to speak with the judge. He also said something about an attorney? I’ve never been to court so I’m kinda slow on this but all this for some papers?
Ummm you do realize you are giving the title “single parent” if you and your child’s mother aren’t together. Single parent as in I do what I can for him while he lives with his mother.

We were never married. We was boyfriend/girlfriend that had a baby. Live in Mississippi.
Go to MEPS and they could give me and him a test? well he is my son I just don’t have custody probably(not sure of Mississippi custody laws for kids out of wedlock)
I tried to email you but yahoo answers didnt let me. so i’ll copy and paste.

You said I could have joint custody? The air force recruiters says you can’t have any kind of custody…..they said it will have to be setup where you are not a father anymore. so that means giving up legal/physical custody.

To be honest I may have joint custody. I’m not sure of the custody law for Mississippi. I don’t know if they give full custody to the mother or shared custody for kids out of wedlock. I’m hoping they gave her full custody so I just could go to the court house and pick up papers showing I don’t have any kind of custody rights

How can I get my parents to let me date?

I am 14 years old, and I’m pretty mature for my age. I have all A’s, and I am a pretty good girl. I don’ t do anything behind my parent’s back ever, really.

The thing is, I’m going to high school next year, and I do want to go on dates. My dad, who is pretty much a single parent, hates talking about me dating. I feel as though this subject is forbidden around him.My mother isn’t as bad as he is, but she still gets a little worried when I talk to boys.

How can I tell them that I’m mature enough to date in high school in an effective way?

Thank you.